What’s it like to work with me?
It’s impossible to give an accurate forecast about what it will be like to receive coaching from me, because the experience is an unfolding relationship, and what will matter most is how you feel in that relationship.
And how you feel in that relationship has very little to do with thinking: it is lived experience.
Still, our brain is devoted to protecting us from fear and injury, and naturally wonders: “Do I resonate with his approach to coaching?”, so it feels important to describe the most essential aspects of what I do.
I’m here to walk alongside you, in service to living your values.
In other words, I’m here to help you move closer to what you want most, in all domains of your life.
Among the many tools we will use along the way, two are foundational: The Empowerment Dynamic (TED*), and Process Work.
To use Molly Gordon’s elegant phrase, TED* is “utterly simple and endlessly nuanced,” and has 3 steps:
What am I focusing on? (on what I want, or on what I don’t want?)
How am I relating? (am I in the “Dreaded Drama Triangle”, or the Empowerment Dynamic)
What actions am I taking? (we determine the baby steps that will best serve your needs)
TED* is effective, powerful, and applicable in every life situation.
Like every method, TED* is both useful and limited, and this is where Process Work comes in.
The lineage of Process Work I practice comes originally from Arnold Mindell, as taught by his longtime student David Bedrick, who has added a crucial piece– “UnShaming”-- to the practice.
Process Work believes in everything about you, especially the parts that have been marginalized or put in the shadow. That tinnitus that drives you crazy, that pain in your left lower neck, that behavior you wish you could stop: Process Work does not consider these to be a pathology or an accident, but sources of wisdom. It believes in the wisdom of all your symptoms, concerns, resistances, addictions, emotions, dreams, and body sensations. Process Work involves noticing, supporting, and unfolding these aspects of your experience, which possess profound medicine you need to move forward.
It is also a safe and effective method of working with trauma and abuse, because it honors and follows your experience and feedback every step of the way.
Both of these methods are awareness work. Both of these methods are about you becoming more you: bringing you closer to discovering and living into your true self, the you that your soul already knows.
Contact me and see for yourself.